Your toddler is glued to your side. Bathroom breaks? A challenge. Cooking dinner? Forget it. You crave a few quiet minutes–but asking for space makes you feel guilty.
Why Your Toddler Follows You Everywhere
Clinginess feels exhausting, but it’s actually a sign of trust. Research shows that clingy toddlers form secure attachments. They see you as their safe base when the world feels uncertain.
Simple Ways to Meet Their Needs (and Yours)
Parenting experts like Dr. Sears suggest giving short bursts of focused attention before you need space. Five minutes go a long way - dance to one song, read a quick story, or snuggle on the couch.
When you connect first, your toddler stops working so hard to get your attention later. The whining and tugging ease up because they trust more connection is coming. Try scheduling a few of these mini-rituals throughout the day - after breakfast, mid-morning, before dinner.
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Teach Waiting in 3 Minutes (No Tears)
Use a visual timer to show how long until you’re free. Say, “I need three minutes to finish,” then set the timer where your toddler can see it. Praise them for waiting - it’s a skill that grows with practice.
Growing Independence Together
Start playtime together for 10-15 minutes, then quietly step back while staying nearby. Over time, increase the distance. Knowing you're nearby builds their confidence to explore.
Give short, focused bursts of connection first - you’ll both get what you need without the guilt or the constant cling.
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